“When God called you, he called you to the front lines of a spiritual war.” 

These words set the tone for Restore, a retreat designed specifically for senior pastors and their wives, hosted by the South Carolina Baptist Convention. Held at the Sonesta Resort on Hilton Head Island from February 27–March 1, 2025, this event provided an opportunity for couples to step away from their daily routines and refocus on their marriages, ministries, and calling.

A Sacred Calling with Unique Challenges

Pastoring is a sacred calling, but it comes with unique pressures that can take a toll on both pastors and their families. “We are the only vocation where you first have to win at home before you can win in your work, which is our ministry,” Brian Saxon, SCBaptist Shepherd Team Leader, said. “If we don’t have it right at home, it really doesn’t matter if we get it right at church.”

With this in mind, the retreat was intentionally structured to strengthen ministry couples in a few key areas. The first evening and next morning focused on the personal relationships between husbands and wives, ensuring they were spiritually and emotionally aligned. Friday evening was dedicated to leading families well, and Saturday morning featured discussions on how to minister together as a couple—learning to embrace both the joys and struggles of life in ministry.

Encouragement and Renewal

Mark Dance, Director of Pastoral Wellness at Guidestone, led a time of encouragement, challenging couples to grow in their love for Christ and each other. He reminded them of the importance of intentionally guarding their relationships amid the constant demands of ministry.

For many attendees like Mark and Katherine Sanders from First Baptist Gilbert, Restore provided dedicated time to spend with their spouses. “For me, it’s just a great time of getting away, slowing down, and spending time together,” said Mark. Katherine added, “We don’t get a lot of time to relax. But it’s really nice to be reminded that there are other people doing the same things and in the same boat you are.”

Julie McGill from Springdale Baptist in West Columbia emphasized how Restore has become an annual tradition for her and her husband. “We have come to these weekends every year for quite a while. They have been so encouraging, uplifting, and challenging. It’s a great time for our marriage—just to be renewed and encouraged as a couple.”

A Space to Refocus

For many pastors, it can be difficult to disconnect. Saxon emphasized the necessity of stepping away. “In ministry, it’s hard to find space—you almost have to get away. Some pastors live in a parsonage or don’t live far from the church,” he said. “This weekend was just a retreat where hopefully those pastors could leave it behind and focus on their relationship with the Lord and their spouse.”

For those considering Restore in the future, past attendees highly recommend making it a priority. Mark Sanders encouraged others by saying, “The investment of time and the cost involved—you can’t beat it. You’re not going to stay anywhere else for a weekend for this price, and on top of that, you’re getting the encouragement, worship, and connection with other pastors. It’s absolutely worthwhile.”